Monday, 24 March 2014
Why I don't do Make-up free selfies
There is a bit of a trend at the moment for women to take a 'Make-Up free selfie' (self portrait photograph for those not up with current lingo) as a way of raising awareness of Cancer.
While I am an advocate of raising awareness of health, I have a problem with this trend & I won't be posting a make-up free selfie for any other reason than just because it is me- just me, real me, not being brave or courageous but just everyday 43 year old me.
To me seeing women make-up free should not be seen to be being brave or courageous or anything out of the ordinary. Women should be proud every day of their natural beauty.
Why have we gotten to this place when it is a strange thing to see a woman in all her natural flawed beauty?
Aren't the lines in our face the tales of our lives? The remains of many years of laughter, of sadness, of joy? A sign of our souls visible from the outside.
Isn't the wilted skin a sign that we have lived a life filled with learning and wonky pathways and stories that fill our soul and sometimes make our heart ache?
Is this nakedness of self not a beauteous thing in which to rejoice in everyday and not be seen as something that only brave women do every once in a while?
Why do we feel the need to look young? We compliment with words of "Wow you look so young!' What is shameful about ageing? Why is it not something to celebrate in and rejoice?
Imagine all of us embracing the faces of the aged. To accept and love the lines, the gnarled hands, the grey hairs, the shape of wisdom. To look beyond these things. What a joyous thing this would be.
The billion dollar beauty industry tells us lies about what we should expect about shapes of women & about how our skin should look. Limbs are elongated, cheeks plumped, lips pouted, nails plasticised.
No wonder we think it is 'brave' to be ourselves when the ideal is not actually achievable in reality.
Don't get me wrong, I wear make-up most days and I really enjoy getting a bit dolled up sometimes. But it is never because I feel embarrassed or uneasy about what is underneath but is all about me feeling like being a bit snazzy- for me and only for me.
It is not wearing make-up I have a problem with but the idea of NOT wearing it being something almost shameful.
Let it be clear that my intention here is NOT to denigrate what I believe are the good intentions of those involved, I really do believe people are acting in good faith. My motive is to highlight what I see as a flawed campaign.
Don't forget that I am raising five boys to be able to see beyond the current objectification of women & and see what truly makes them beautiful.
Cancer is a horrid disease. One that is indiscriminate and often silent. It has affected many of my very dear friends & family.
I don't want to diminish in any way the seriousness of this as a health issue- conversely I think we need to do all we can in order to raise awareness and educate.
Just not via encouraging the notion that women should feel uncomfortable in just being their true beautiful bare selves every single day.
Let's just love each other. Bare, beautiful and brave. Every single day. Just for being real.
Posted by GourmetGirlfriend