tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-315813441386653699.post2264480537517901662..comments2024-01-21T20:50:37.612+11:00Comments on GourmetGirlfriend: What really happens at our dinner table.GourmetGirlfriendhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14540195749908936684noreply@blogger.comBlogger21125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-315813441386653699.post-74544268422864423992012-03-15T22:16:19.443+11:002012-03-15T22:16:19.443+11:00Whitney I have heard those comments too. I have 2 ...Whitney I have heard those comments too. I have 2 boys & last year I had two miscarriages. Each time I told people I was pregnant people said "so I bet yoiur hoping for a girl this time?". Each time I said "no Im hoping for a healthy baby" because I had miscarried between my two boys as well so all I wanted was for that not to happen again. I seriously doubt I'll hold my own baby in my arms nowadays & I'm OK with that because I have two great kids. I wish people wouldn't see me as incomplete because I never had a daughter because thats not the way I see it...Reannon https://www.blogger.com/profile/04215161182830545561noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-315813441386653699.post-60513886040865386552012-03-15T22:07:32.926+11:002012-03-15T22:07:32.926+11:00I have been following you on Instagram for a while...I have been following you on Instagram for a while now but today was the first time I clicked over to your blog & it was meant to be I tell ya!!!! <br /><br />I have the fussiest eater the eating gods have ever graced the planet with!!! Its hard to explain to people just how bad it is so I wont bother but trust me its mental. Its so nice to hear you say "My message is that NO mother on this planet is to be judged to be a better mother because of the dinner she cooked" because I often feel the need to justify the insanity that is my 12 year olds diet & I often judge myself & beat myself for poor eating choices. Weetbix has always been our stand by & its nice to know I'm not the only one so thankyou xxReannon https://www.blogger.com/profile/04215161182830545561noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-315813441386653699.post-36766891833270503922012-03-14T18:20:59.280+11:002012-03-14T18:20:59.280+11:00I wish I could reach through the screen and give y...I wish I could reach through the screen and give you a big hug, Whitney. I cried reading your comment. I am very sorry for your loss and that pain that doesn't go away, but hopefully becomes easier to bear with time. I have three boys as well, the same ages as your beautiful little gentlemen, and have been on the receiving end of those comments more times than I could count. "Oh, what a shame you had another boy" and "You must be so disappointed you didn't have a girl" without any knowledge of the journey I've taken to be where I am or how thankful I am to have each of them in my life. Every time someone says that, I want to grab them by the hand and tell them how sad I am that they're missing the beauty in front of them while wishing for something that's not there. I don't wish for what I don't have, I am thankful for the amazing and loving family that I am surrounded with. As Ruth rightly said, it's all about LOVE. It's not about gender, not even one little bit. I'm so happy that you've found Ruth's beautiful blog and the comfort you need to help you. Take care xxxNatalie (tiny and little)https://www.blogger.com/profile/11754725909016120079noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-315813441386653699.post-82694721763060038932012-03-14T18:13:48.979+11:002012-03-14T18:13:48.979+11:00I loved this too, another newcomer after finding t...I loved this too, another newcomer after finding this via the magic of twitter. I despise dinnertime with my three year old boy but tonight he had rice bubbles and I cut myself some slack and refused to feel bad about it so thank you xCarli@tinysavages.comhttp://www.tinysavages.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-315813441386653699.post-90755523046450330422012-03-14T17:50:33.630+11:002012-03-14T17:50:33.630+11:00welling tears....welling tears....whitneynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-315813441386653699.post-91005805717605698952012-03-14T17:24:48.301+11:002012-03-14T17:24:48.301+11:00Whitney.....I am completely overwhelmed by your go...Whitney.....I am completely overwhelmed by your gorgeous comment.<br />Thankyou so very much for making the time to let me know your feelings so beautifully, honestly and courageously.<br />I have been wanting to respond and couldn't email or find you.....then someone suggested I reply right here! <br />*slaps forehead* <br />Doh! how could I be so silly not to think of that!!!<br /><br />I have the same thing happen to me as you are talking of ALL.THE. TIME.<br />the assumption that we have 5 children BECAUSE we kept trying for a girl.<br />Actually. NO.<br />We had a plan to have 5 children. <br />Whether they were boys or girls was totally irrelevant.<br /><br />we are ever so lucky to have our 5 children.<br />All gorgeous.<br />Not because they are boys but because they are individual people with fabulously different faces, bodies & personalities.<br />Yes. those comments really really hurt.<br />OVER and OVER again....i think I might have a comeback....every single time...i seem to go mute.<br />I think part of me is in shock at peoples insensitivity....(or is it stupidity?).<br /><br />It's not all about girls...or all about boys.<br />It's all about LOVE.<br />I am so happy this place has become a comfort to you & that you have forgiven yourself.<br />I'm so sorry for the loss of one of your beautiful babes. a loss that never gets easier.....<br />take care<br />xxxxxGourmetGirlfriendhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14540195749908936684noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-315813441386653699.post-47362621460094822652012-03-13T14:08:12.737+11:002012-03-13T14:08:12.737+11:00Loved this post Ruth. I found your previous posts ...Loved this post Ruth. I found your previous posts after seeing conversations on Twitter and it was exactly what I needed. My normally unfussy girl has turned fussy. And as frustrating as it is, I just remember your post and know she'll be ok. I worry about her nutrition though. But I try to put it in the back of my mind. <br />Your posts and your blog are inspiring. You're such a wonderful mother. xxAmeliaMWhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01556432714220385619noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-315813441386653699.post-46488359528540452722012-03-10T10:00:59.396+11:002012-03-10T10:00:59.396+11:00When times are tough in my house - not necessarill...When times are tough in my house - not necessarilly made so by my children, but by comments made by other people, sometimes, random, complete strangers - i put my comfy clothes on, make a pot of tea, and read all over your blog....its like a big piece of reassuring pie....you see, i have boys too....three very lovely, very loud, very bigger than life boys....we lost our only girl when we were 16 weeks pregnant with her....some things are just not meant to be....people love to ask my husband and i whether we will go back and get it right next time....ask me what i am going to do when my boys get wives and we are left all alone....i haven't got the heart to tell them we lost our girl...i haven't got the heart to tell them that there comments hurt....that their missing these three beautiful little boys who are usually standing right in front of them (6, 4, & 2) because it seems that its all about girls...its not my fault i don't have girls, i think i've finally forgiven myself for it....i love my boys, they are my world....i love that you have boys, i find absolute comfort in it...your blog is like my special world where its okay to have boys, where its okay to love that you have boys...all boy households are amazing....and loud....thats the comfort i find in your blog...your gorgeous food is just a bonus...whitneynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-315813441386653699.post-4879961214657222422012-03-09T15:05:03.399+11:002012-03-09T15:05:03.399+11:00I'm almost in tears reading this. I think the ...I'm almost in tears reading this. I think the last few nights have got me down. The kids (7, 5 & 2) have been tired and cranky, and more difficult than usual. So it is wonderful to read that I'm not the only one who struggles with reality! More than that, it's great to be given hope; hope that mealtimes can be a relaxed and enjoyable family time (as they sometimes are). Thank you, Ruth, for your honesty, insights and ideas, as well as your inspiration. Here's to the dinner table being a great place to be!Sally Oakley (@SallyRavels)http://thethreadededge.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-315813441386653699.post-19945417329833438492012-03-08T22:08:27.900+11:002012-03-08T22:08:27.900+11:00Thank thank thank you. I am coming off yet anothe...Thank thank thank you. I am coming off yet another week of being at my wits end about fussy eating, many meals one night, one meal for everyone another night, one child out of four being possibly pathalogically afraid of trying anything new at dinner time and on it goes. Your photos on facebook have inspired me to keep going and keep trying but it was SO humbling to read your post about what goes on in your house and gives me hope that by the time my kids turn 10, things may have turned the corner. In the meantime, I am not going to stress about serving up weetbix and toast (a sure fire fix to when I cannot face dinner drama!) Keep up the excellent work. JoJonoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-315813441386653699.post-92077952744662185552012-03-08T19:28:53.530+11:002012-03-08T19:28:53.530+11:00Love your blog...I'm a newcomer and truly love...Love your blog...I'm a newcomer and truly love the way you cook.<br /><br />And phew...I don't feel so bad that some nights it's just chops + peas + chips + egg at our place (or in the case of my four year old - no chops + no peas + some chips + do not put an egg anywhere near my plate) night...<br /><br />Thanks again.<br /><br />Just bought my wonton wrappers for the wonton soup...now, just need to source the maggi seasoning from somewhere (coles online devastated me with their oversight!)<br /><br />Cheers.<br /><br />MonnieMonnienoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-315813441386653699.post-19443835265173018942012-03-08T18:10:22.208+11:002012-03-08T18:10:22.208+11:00you're right Ruth, the food isn't the most...you're right Ruth, the food isn't the most important thing at the dinner table... thank you so much (and you know, your influence in our house has been huge - today I was presented with play dough wontons!)xCatherinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14117014438588991872noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-315813441386653699.post-82637489157569765982012-03-08T17:05:59.203+11:002012-03-08T17:05:59.203+11:00It will come as no surprise that I love a gal who ...It will come as no surprise that I love a gal who feels compelled to put a picture on the top of her pie :oDRottoland Libraryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05621884899001922784noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-315813441386653699.post-87145846572785688622012-03-08T16:36:37.342+11:002012-03-08T16:36:37.342+11:00I love this post Ruth. Love. It is everything foo...I love this post Ruth. Love. It is everything food and love and family should be. <br />Each night I put music on in the kitchen and light a candle on our table. The music was always there, but the candle idea came from you. <br /><br />xxxxNaomihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11944798399375789864noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-315813441386653699.post-2619299385892096422012-03-08T16:12:19.843+11:002012-03-08T16:12:19.843+11:00Hmmm I had forgotten about that chicken pie. Might...Hmmm I had forgotten about that chicken pie. Might have to give it another whorl!!!!!!!!<br /><br />Love you and your work,<br /><br />Nood<br />XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXOOOOOOOOOOO<br />ps Very proud and happy for all your success Darlin'Nednoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-315813441386653699.post-7893092347691215952012-03-08T16:11:10.988+11:002012-03-08T16:11:10.988+11:00I want to meet up and have dinner with you too, yo...I want to meet up and have dinner with you too, you are just delighftul xxNathalie Brownhttp://www.easypeasykids.com.aunoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-315813441386653699.post-80437670859616457822012-03-08T15:43:18.133+11:002012-03-08T15:43:18.133+11:00I wanna say everything that Stella Orbit above me ...I wanna say everything that Stella Orbit above me said.<br />Love you and look forward to both our gangs sitting down for another meal together soon. xxxxxKatehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04234467488696653117noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-315813441386653699.post-4083395917121313972012-03-08T14:07:58.899+11:002012-03-08T14:07:58.899+11:00This is the best post ever. I feel so lucky that I...This is the best post ever. I feel so lucky that I have you in my life. I feel blessed that we actually met up when I was in Melbs. <br /><br />Food unites us. Food nourishes us. And it teaches us - mostly about our kids. <br /><br />Love to you and the brood. See you soon I hope so we can all hang out and drink coffee and the kids can play. <br /><br />Love xoxStella Orbithttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07096066350719890367noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-315813441386653699.post-60184227352232240462012-03-08T13:59:58.616+11:002012-03-08T13:59:58.616+11:00We have ice cream for dinner too sometimes, lots o...We have ice cream for dinner too sometimes, lots of French Toast, boiled eggs, and dessert dinners - loads of oaty apple crumble with plain yoghurt. It's all good! <br /><br />Of course you inspire people, you are awesome!<br /><br />xxMichellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16616733902804562775noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-315813441386653699.post-22940329178287548232012-03-08T13:46:39.967+11:002012-03-08T13:46:39.967+11:00Love this post Ruth. I was part of those brillian...Love this post Ruth. I was part of those brilliant conversations over the last couple of weeks about kids and eating and reading your old post and this new one, restores my faith that I am doing the right thing at my place! Dinner food sometimes, toast sometimes, whatever!!! It's so easy to get in to the trap of being frustrated when your kids won't eat the food you cook - especially if it's something that has taken a long time to prepare, cost hard earned money and if it's something I know they would love if they actually tried it!!! But, the lesson to have the freedom around the concept of let them eat it if they want to, but if not, have a back up (wheatbix, toast or a banana in our household) is extremely liberating. I sometimes forget this, but you are a brilliant reminder!!!<br /><br />I tagged you in a photo on instagram yesterday when my 1 year old had a mega meltdown and refused to try his dinner of scrambled eggs & lost the plot. I was on the brink! I put him down on the floor to play and gave my 3 year old dinner. I walked away & came back 5 minutes later to find my 1 year old had climbed right up on to his brother's knee and was happily shoving fistfuls of scrambled eggs in to his mouth!!!! He just wanted to do it on his own terms, with his own hands!!!! It was your advice in my mind that allowed me to calm down and leave him be in that infuriating moment, and giving my baby the space to decide on his own was a HUGE success!! And it was beyond adorable seeing him sitting on his brother's knee at the table!!!<br /><br />Anyway, your reach is far lovely Ruth!!!! Thank you for your constant inspiration.xoxoxoxoxoAmyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16738183438346735542noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-315813441386653699.post-79560937492856073602012-03-08T13:38:22.439+11:002012-03-08T13:38:22.439+11:00Gosh! Your just the best! xxxGosh! Your just the best! xxxLittle Shophttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12379601070252244688noreply@blogger.com