tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-315813441386653699.post2310490490907498201..comments2024-01-21T20:50:37.612+11:00Comments on GourmetGirlfriend: "Neglect"GourmetGirlfriendhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14540195749908936684noreply@blogger.comBlogger12125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-315813441386653699.post-78677933481388515482010-10-25T13:56:31.296+11:002010-10-25T13:56:31.296+11:00Hear, hear GG! Thank you, I love it. We all need t...Hear, hear GG! Thank you, I love it. We all need to be left to our own devices at times, without constant attention. I'm definitely guilty of over-cultivation at times!! I felt the need to constantly intervene in their play and then someone said 'just leave them be' and I thought, yes, what a great idea! Kids are like plants, and will thrive with lots of love, security, food, water and plenty of time outdoors!!! Luckily we have a big backyard and the kids just love to pull out the trillions of weeds that grow (see, great reason for neglecting!) Thanks for fabulous, kind post as always, Kate XXXKatehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12064789146346006482noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-315813441386653699.post-13321461251145566582010-10-21T16:26:39.965+11:002010-10-21T16:26:39.965+11:00Ruth, I remember so many of your words still today...Ruth, I remember so many of your words still today. I always remember you telling me that you put a special hat on when you want to have some uninterrupted reading time, and the kids know to leave you read. I LOVE that idea and have told many about it. You have so much spirit and warmth and love to share about everything you do - mum, wife and friend. Keep up the inspirational words. I get ALL your words. Oh, I have a completely barren veggie patch. The only thing in it at all is a massive horseradish and I've never got around to it! it's time to dig that nugget up hey! xxDaniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13878417326753662230noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-315813441386653699.post-81891613419527391102010-10-21T14:22:08.088+11:002010-10-21T14:22:08.088+11:00Beautiful post...You can't kill horseradish ev...Beautiful post...You can't kill horseradish even if you try very, very hard...it's a ripper plant. I left all mine behind in Tassie but will be popping some in up here for sure! The 1st time I made horseradish cream I nearly blew my head off, because I decided to take the lid off the blender and have a whiff - even though the recipe warned me not to! he he there's a tip - don't EVER tell me NOT to do something, unless you really WANT me to do it. And as for our version of "neglectful" parenting...I'm happy to report that after being raised with plenty of NO's (not always with lengthy explanations and justifications), lots of routine and a clear distinction between the adult world and their world and making them wait if I was busy doing something else - my kids are gorgeous, funny, intelligent, insightful, clever, resourceful, talented and totally independent human beings who understood from a VERY young age that the world does NOT revolve around them - and that they were a part of a family that is part of a humongous global family and we all need to work together to get on.<br />YAY to OUR kinda "neglect"! XBang and Whimperhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01488642623403197312noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-315813441386653699.post-76003174138418276642010-10-21T11:56:38.688+11:002010-10-21T11:56:38.688+11:00@ anonymous (previous comment)
Thanks for your co...@ anonymous (previous comment)<br />Thanks for your comment- I agree with you that neglect proper is abusive. <br /> I am sorry you have misunderstood the meaning of the post. <br />The tone of this article was intended to highlight our own guilt and self judgement as parents. That when we think of putting ourselves first - just some of the time & clearly not when it is truly detrimental- that our first gut feeling is that that is somehow neglectful. That is why that word is in inverted commas. <br />Of course it is not meant to be a post about neglecting your children- if you read through my other posts you will see I am all about giving a FULL life to my children and to any others who come in to my life.GourmetGirlfriendhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14540195749908936684noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-315813441386653699.post-6212257505331322502010-10-21T11:48:35.063+11:002010-10-21T11:48:35.063+11:00Talking about the importance of self care in relat...Talking about the importance of self care in relation to being a good parent is obviously great. However, using the word 'neglect' makes me really uncomfortable as it trivializes the fact that neglect is one of, if not the worst form of child abuse.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-315813441386653699.post-31976974030361713272010-10-19T22:14:59.360+11:002010-10-19T22:14:59.360+11:00See... I need sleep my last post did'nt even m...See... I need sleep my last post did'nt even make sense!Jaynenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-315813441386653699.post-19564108771618693432010-10-19T22:12:23.258+11:002010-10-19T22:12:23.258+11:00It has been a long and exhausting day, it is so wo...It has been a long and exhausting day, it is so wonderful to hear your words of wisdom! I am now going to straight to bed and will the rest of the house work can wait!! night night!jaynenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-315813441386653699.post-55164472426710737632010-10-19T20:33:09.168+11:002010-10-19T20:33:09.168+11:00Your photography is so wonderful! And your sentim...Your photography is so wonderful! And your sentiments I totally agree with. I learnt to let my kids cry a bit about 8 months into the 2nd (who cried a lot!). Then by the 3rd I was too tired to get up so within in 10 minutes he'd be back asleep ... I couldn't believe I'd been such a sucker for so long, running at the first wail!! But like a dear friend of mine said, kids are our teachers, and ain't that the truth!!! Thanks for another gorgeous blog. Those pork rillettes remind me of France! Scruuumptious! XXAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-315813441386653699.post-21738351370542372312010-10-19T19:27:29.072+11:002010-10-19T19:27:29.072+11:00You are amazing actually.You are amazing actually.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-315813441386653699.post-16444686349727119452010-10-19T19:10:43.085+11:002010-10-19T19:10:43.085+11:00True words of wisdom you are, indeedy do!!! So jus...True words of wisdom you are, indeedy do!!! So just then I put myself first and asked Miss A to give me a massage (which she prides as her specialty). However, I told her she wasnt allowed to speak the whole time (mission impossible for her)but to just enjoy the silence. The moment was all about ME!!! <br />Ruth, I enjoy reading your blog so much and hearing of the large embrace you have on life.<br />You are a wonderful mother and friend!!! CC xxxCCnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-315813441386653699.post-57083006563396120972010-10-19T18:59:31.470+11:002010-10-19T18:59:31.470+11:00Horseradish... I fell in love that day sitting at ...Horseradish... I fell in love that day sitting at your table & fresh home grown Horseradish was his name! Just Divine!In Love.noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-315813441386653699.post-62876208427321984662010-10-19T18:59:13.189+11:002010-10-19T18:59:13.189+11:00Fabulous post - and ever-so-true.Fabulous post - and ever-so-true.PinkPatentMaryJaneshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07219272193124932806noreply@blogger.com