Monday, 24 October 2011

Navigating change

Navigating change is so hard.

So much harder when you are delving into the unknown.

In our heads we roll around ideas of how things might go.

How we might deal with things as they present themselves.

It helps us prepare for things.

Helps us build resolve.

Build courage.

But life doesn't always follow a plan.

And sometimes what we have in mind isn't really how it turns out.

I have always been pretty good at being able to be spontaneous.

I've been able to deal with change really really well.

It used to be easy.

Now it's hard.

Last year a huge event blew everything I had always known out of the water.

It changed me.

It changed everything I knew.

Now I feel afraid.

Afraid of change.

Afraid of the unknown.

I have been learning to accept that this is ok.

A natural course for someone in my situation.

I have been trying very hard to go easy on myself.

To do what is good for me.

That isn't always easy for the people close to me who aren't used to this new me.

But it is hardest of all for me....I don't know this new me very well either.

I am learning to say no.

That has never been easy for me to do.

But navigating change is not easy.

I just need to trust myself and believe it is ok.

And that it will be ok.

It will.



I make this quite often for lunch.
I love the slippery silkenness of Tofu.
I know lots of people don't like it.  Only one of my kids really loves it.  He loves it when I make this, we devour it together!
It is SUPER quick and I always have tofu in the cupboard.   I eat it as is. 
SO yummy!  it is my sort of comfort food.

  • 1 pack of silken tofu
  • 3 tablespoons Sesame oil
  • 1 red chilli (or a teaspoon of chilli oil)
  • 1 clove garlic, crushed or finely chopped
  • a 2cm chunk of ginger, sliced into extra fine strips
  • 1 stem of spring onion - sliced finely
  • some freshly chopped coriander
  • 2 tablespoons soy sauce.

Slice tofu into large chunks in a shallow bowl.  Add spring onion, chilli, coriander & soy sauce on top of tofu.

In a small pan heat sesame oil till hot and add garlic & ginger and immediately take off of heat and pour over the tofu.

It will sizzle and the perfume of the flavours will envelop you!

Eat immediately.

Today's track is another duet featuring Willy Mason. After listening to Lianne La Havas all week I re-visited Willy mason's music. I love it.  This time he is singing with the very lovely Isobel Campbell (she sang with Belle & Sebastian for a while but she is also a cellist.)
It is such a lovely track...hope you enjoy:


  1. I reckon the 'new' version of you is ace.
    I reckon we have a 'new' version of ourselves, each time we wake up...
    I reckon that whatever version you are, the core value of what makes you so so special remains...

    Don't be scared darling gormet girlfriend...
    As long as you have love, you can conquer anything.
    You know that.
    Doesn't always make it easy...
    But it is easier, if you are fuly sick...which you are!
    Love Anon

  2. Beautiful post, Ruth! Thanks for taking the time to express it (and, of course, for sharing yet another fab recipe... can't wait to try it.)

  3. take your time and be patient with yourself.
    i think you are a very big part of the way there by recognising your fears.
    you might like to read these posts exploring the notion of life as a rough draft that can be started again:


  4. Change is very hard. I have always struggled with it. Started when I was little, being the eldest of five and I liked things how they were, but Mum and Dad wanted to move...dreaded it, but once it happened, loved it. I still dread change. But, it's inevitable and I am growing in to it. Saying "no" and doing what is right for you, is the truest way to live your life and can surely only lead to you being more satisfied and at peace. I am going to give it a go too, let's compare notes. X

  5. Your never failing courage ( it is there, even if you don't know it sometimes) will see you through as it always has, my most gutsy daughter. I am so happy to hear of this latest version of you. Saying 'no'!! Yes!!!!!!!! xxxxxx

  6. Ruth, some great thoughts about a common life-theme. Thank you.

    The tofu recipe looks amazing. Can't wait to try it.

  7. Your Mama said it all: you are amazing and stronger than you know.

    Keep doing what you are doing, it's tough but it will get you there in the end.

    Hugs to you, dear thing. C x x x


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