I wonder if they imagine a pristine & silent place.
Or if they know it is a place of happy noise and chaos.
I wonder if they imagine me serving a gourmet meal to a table of perfectly groomed and well behaved boys who eat everything I serve.
Or if they know that a lot of the time I will be serving weet-bix to a straggling crowd of begraggled and noisy boys.
I wonder if they imagine that I wash the sheets on Thursdays every week.
Or if they know that I am lucky to ever actually get to the sheets after the umpteen other loads that need attention first.
I wonder if they imagine that I have a calender where I have everything written down that I need to remember.
Or if they know that I forget lots of things as I am lucky to even get the time to write in my calendar let alone look at it.
I wonder if they imagine that my house is kept tidy and ordered and that when the kids ask for something I will know exactly where it is.
Or if they know that my house is a home and not a showpiece and so along with that comes mess and a disshevelled order and that I can dream up a million other things to do other than housework. And that some days I truly dream of being one of those super neat freaks (and i am guessing that Hubs might just dream of me being one of those too)....and then I wake up from my daydream and remember I am me! And Hubs comes home to the same gal he fell in love with a hundred million years ago.
I wonder if they imagine that I am level headed ALL the time and speak softly and lovingly to my children all the time.
Or if they know that I lose it too. When the constant demands on me become overwhelming and I am drowning in doing everything for everyone. ALL. THE. TIME. And that shouty mumma gets let out. And that very soon after regretty mumma makes an appearance , embarrassed at her childish behaviour.
I wonder if they imagine that I love what I do all the time.
Or if they know that like every single person on the planet I have days where I think a million other people would be better at my job than I am.
We all set an idea of PERFECTION.
What it looks like.
How we achieve it.
But on those days when I give myself a hard time about not doing a very good job, I try to remember what I tell my kids ALL the time.
Perfection is a non-reality.
It is something imagined.
Something dreamed up.
It is ok to drop your bundle.
It is ok to not be doing a great job all the time.
It is ok to not cope with everything all the time.
It is ok.
It really is.
GOURMET GIRLFRIEND'S SPAGHETTI AGLIO E OLIO:
This is one of the QUICKEST and BESTEST meals to serve when you have dropped your bundle and serving weet-bix AGAIN seems a bit much! Or at any other time. It is incredibly nutritious and delicious.
My kids all LOVE it.
If your kids like Garlic Bread they will love this. Us grown ups love it too.
It is a gorgeously simple Pasta dish that's origins I have read to be either from the Naples or the Abruzzo region of Italy- it is quite probable like all regional cuisine that there are varieties for each region.
Variations include the addition of chilli, anchovy fillets or sometimes fennel seeds.
It is a classic example of simple is best!
The rule of thumb for pasta portions is 100g per person.
Make the sauce about 5 minutes before the pasta is cooked and transfer the pasta into the cooking pan with a ladleful of the water and cook in the sauce for the last 2 minutes of the cooking time. This is true of most pasta dishes. The pasta absorbs the sauce and it makes for a more delicious meal.
This recipe is for 4.
WHAT YOU WILL NEED:
- 5 tblspoons EVOO (extra virgin olive oil)
- 6 cloves of garlic
- 1/2 cup Italian parsley, chopped extra fine.
- S & P
- parmesan or pecorino cheese to grate.
On a medium heat in a nonstick fry pan heat EVOO until warm. Add garlic.
Fry gently for about a minute- just long enough to be fragrant. It is VERY important not to burn the garlic as it will be very bitter.
Add the parsley.
Add S & P.
Transfer pasta into the frypan and cook through for last 2 minutes of cooking time.
Serve with grated cheese.
And today's listening pleasure is a favourite of mine from way back. Just perfect to cook too, to dance in the kitchen to or to eat to. My family love him. Hubster and I watched an amazing doco on him probably over ten years ago now. It was love at first listen. We passed on the doco to our extended family who all fell in love as we did..... An amazing man- Ladies and Gentleman please meet Mr.Paolo Conte.